Everyday is the same, I wake up and go to sleep to music. The only variation is the type of music I listen to. Lately, I have been obsessed with Max Richter’s album, Sleep released by Deutsche Grammophon for bedtime. The music is atmospheric and puts me at ease. Waking up in the middle of the night has been less aggravating since I’ve started listening to Sleep. There are no highs and lows like classical pieces, so I’m not startled. I’m curious how long I will continue to listen to the same album. My other go-to artists are Enya, François-Frédéric Guy, Melody Gardot, Massive Attack, and Emilíana Torrini. If I am ever at a loss as to what to listen to, I’ll choose a Spotify playlist. What are some of your favorite musical artists to sleep to?
Music in the morning varies for my son and I. Since he is performing for the School of Rock’s Red Hot Chili Pepper show, it has been a lot of their songs on repeat. Of which I don’t mind, because I get to reminisce about my teen years and my 20’s. It’s been fun sharing stories and dropping some RHCP musical knowledge. Side note, at one point in my life I wanted to be a music journalist. Some of the music artists we currently rely on to get us pumped for the day are: Kendrick Lamar, Kid Cudi, Queens Of The Stone Age, DJ Shadow, System Of A Down, Travis Scott, N.E.R.D., Panic! At The Disco, and Marina And The Diamonds. Next week it will be a different set, but it is always an eclectic mix.
Please share in the comments section below who your go-to music artists are for morning and evenings.
Wind Up/Wind Down
We are not morning people at all. I wake up my son nearly two hours before he needs to catch the school bus. This allows for a much needed slow start. He has yet to wake himself, so I am his alarm. I know I need to work on this, but I honestly don’t mind. He’s eleven and has an irregular schedule. Between school, drum lessons, and sports it is hectic. When it comes time to get him out of bed, it takes several tries. Most days I literally have to yank him out of bed by his feet; gently of course. I’ve learned not to tickle or poke him, unless I want to unleash his inner demon. All jokes aside, waking up is aching and grueling. If we had it our way, the whole world would be night owls and we could sleep in.
Once we make it downstairs, we decide on breakfast. If cereal, my son serves himself, as do I. Otherwise, it is waffles, pancakes, eggs, and fruit options. We enjoy breakfast with Netflix. It is our time to catch up on shows we like. Currently we are watching Lemony Snicket’s A Series Of Unfortunate Events, Supernatural, Jessica Jones (fast forwarding the risqué parts), Miraculous Tales Of Ladybug & Cat Noir, and 80’s movies. Trust me we have time to chat, check the weather, select an outfit, pack bags, personal care, and what not. Curious what mornings is like for others; especially those who have more than one child.
In order to maintain energy and survive the day, I drink coffee mid morning and sometimes in the afternoon. I found that making coffee at home, Starbucks of course, and using a thermos to keep the temperature, is effective. Don’t get me wrong, I maintain my gold status with Starbucks. I love collecting my stars and redeeming my freebies. Not to mention, it is a great way for my son and I to pick up a treat, a drink, and chitchat on occasion. What fuels you and keeps you going throughout the day?
When school is out for my son and dinner time is approaching, is the time where things start to get difficult for us. We are so hyped to talk about our day and have a snack, that we tend to lose track of time. This is also the time when I tend to argue with my son about what constitutes a substantial snack. Oh, the agony! If he had it his way, snack would be high in sugar and also count as dinner. Does any mama out there have snacks prepared for the kids prior to them getting home or have snacks dedicated for after school eating?
Homework time, my most dreaded time with my son. Only because he struggles with staying focused and keeping on track and I struggle with staying calm and redirecting him. Listening to classical music has helped minimize the tapping, shuffling, whistling, and pencil drumming. If only I could keep that train of thought going, homework would be a walk in the park. I remember there was a time where he would welcome my help, but he claims I am too critical of him now. Side note – Is anyone else bothered by the fact that children in school these days are not required to work on their penmanship? On the nights he has lots of homework, I choose a cutoff time and have him finish in the morning.
Dinner time on most nights is between six and seven in the evening. Followed by dessert, showering, and getting ready for bed. My son says his goodnights, talks to me about whatever is on his mind, and then takes a moment to reflect on his day (think/process for himself). It is something he has recently started to do and I love it. It is so precious to see him lay on his back, with his arms behind his bed, contemplating things. Okay, so I know this because I secretly caught him once. Come on! What mother wouldn’t do the same (question with a wink)? These moments are fleeting; he’s a preteen.
Once my son is sound asleep, if I haven’t already, I shower and get ready for bed. If I am fortunate enough to have done so already, I plan for the next day. I utilize my Panda Planner to help me reflect upon my day, notice my wins/accomplishments, things to improve, establish projects, creating a monthly habit, a daily affirmation, and awareness/accountability for what I am grateful for and what I am looking forward to. I love the planner because it helps with all aspects of my life. It is a great tool to learn how to love yourself, prioritize your life, take time for the ones you love, create habits, minimize negativity, learn something new, and set life goals. The planner is broken down into three sections monthly, weekly, and daily.
All that’s left to do at this point is apply my vitamin E hand lotion and EOS lip balm (I am secretly obsessed and have practically every flavor lip balm), do my Darabee Yoga Better Sleep workout, turn on my Himalayan salt lamp, select my bedtime music, and hit the sack.
Connecting The Dots:
Please note that not everyday runs this smoothly. Life happens! Some days are more entertaining than others, can be stressful at times, and have unexpected surprises and/or challenges. As a mother who suffers from mental illness, I understand all to well what it is like to have the best intentions and fall off track. The point of me sharing this, is to show that I have a plan in place. And like all plans, alterations and eliminations can be made at any time. I have a system that I’ve created to help me stay focused and maintain my sanity and composure. Self care is important for everyone in the household. Don’t get caught up with feelings of guilt and failure. Instead, reflect on your day, appreciate your wins (big and small), look for ways to improve, and know that life is about being a constant work in progress. No one is perfect!
Please feel free to share with me how you do good mornings and good evenings, your struggles, opinions, suggestions, feedback, and input. I would love for my blog to kickoff, connect me with others, and be a place for interaction.
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